Shows

You know, I usually don't get a lot of unsolicited comments on shows but I got a number messages about yesterday's show and the definition of manhood.

I have a certain old schoolness about me. I am old school and hard core when it comes to responsiblity. Hence my next comment. What scares me most about America's attitude today is its "It's not my fault, I should be happy all of the time and I ought to have certain things."

My mother often bemoaned my sister and I's lack of "strong ghetto constitution" "you don't know what tough is" she used to tell us and she's right. If you cannot change your circumstances - which you can't if you keep doing the same wrong thing everyday - That's another one of my mother's favorite bitches - "people can't change"

She also used to say "If you are waiting for someone to come rescue you get comfortable. They are not coming."

There are things you can't do anything about like losing your job in bad economic times. That's a body blow. (But it need not be a fatal one. The guy that killed himself his wife and his kids the day he lost his job rattles me to the core.)

But this blog is not about money or bad economic times. Its about decisions to take responsibility. Not only the men (as I spoke about in the show) but women too. When you have children you lose all manner of rights. You do not have the right to do as you please. You do not have the right to put yourslf first (most of the time -( everyonce in a while you have to pull a 'mommy's off the clock move' for your own sanity) You lose the right to walk away. You lose the right to 'wait and see what happens."

Ladies, we lose the right to go on some ill thought out romantic adventure. The kids come first.

Life is hard. Obama is smart but he ain't magic. Its still all about what WE decide to do.