A Few Points

Okay here are my thoughts on a couple of subject areas people have brought up. First, as promised here's my ten cents worth on in law trouble:

1. Remember you can't change other people so all you can do is change how you respond. No matter how loudly or often you say something that typically is not an effective way to change some one's mind. I think the party whose parent is being difficult should deal with the situation. If your mother-in-law is giving you grief your spouse should hanlde the problem. You need to talk to him or her. Not when you're angry but at a time when things are good. Something like "I really get hurt by the things your mother says. I need you to talk to her when I'm not around. . . .Don't expect miracles just ask for a little relief. Tell them that so they think it is something that they can accomplish.

2.Learn the art of not arguing. Meet insult with a smile and a redirect. Example: "Mother-in-law: "You can't cook" You: "Ain't it a shame" followed by laughter. It's no fun insulting someone who doesn't get hurt by it.

3. Globalize Your Pain Quotient: You are not starving in the drought ravaged Sudan nor has your whole town been overrun by an enemy army . It's just some woman making nasty comments about you again. This too shall pass.

Next topic:

Someone asked me if I believed in love at first sight. I think I have answered this one before but it bears repeating NO NO and then again NO. I don't believe in it! I believe in lust at first sight. I believe in wishful thinking; I want the faily tale confusion at first sight but not love. Of course, everytime I say this someone tells me how they fell in love with their spouse at first sight and have been married 50 years. First of all good for you!!! I love happy endings. But I believe that is an exception. It just turned out that your great intial attraction involved two people who were right for each other. It happens but it's rare and the problem is people in the thows of the initial hormonal rush don't know the difference. If it's the real thing time will tell. Relationships are a job.

3. Ya'll leave Chuck (my tech guy) alone! He made a custom page for me that matched my website. I was the one fooling around and changed it to something standard. I just wanted to see what would happen.!
Have a great day,

Judge Lynn