Be Careful What You Wish For

Hello,

You know I read a lot and I read about everything, especially relationships marriage etc. I also like to read studies and articles from 'noted specialists or experts' that are 20 or 30 years old and who are predicting new trends. I like to see how well they did. (usually they don't do so well) - my non-PhD having mother's track is waaaaaaaaaay better. Anyway I had to eat some crow on a study I thought was dumb yesterday.

When the women's movement was in it's hey day some guy wrote that as far as equality with respect to housework and taking care of the kids would run into this one unanticipated roadblock - women will not like losing control knowledge and methods on the home front. In other words we won't like it when the hubby takes over too much with that stuff because we feel we need to do that. I thought that was silly and swore that if I ever got my husband to a place where he would be primarily responsible for the kids I would love it.

Well, since we've moved my husband has been home and I am the one out working and don't you know this week I realized he was running the kiddy show. he knew where everyone was supposed to be what they needed and everything. I had to be reminded of what was going on on this day and what the kids needed. And I had MOMENT.

I felt a little guilty. I felt a little envious. I realized that I took pride in being the one who knew what to do and had it all together. Now its him. I felt a little like I got demoted.

Of course, I didn't say that. I may have been surprised but I'm no fool. I always let my first emotional reaction pass me by. I am going to work to get over feeling that way. Bucking long held social roles is not easy but I'm going to make this work. I can't piss and moan now that my husband is the one they rely on after complaining about the mommy 24/7 thing like I used to do. Not only that I gave the man his props. I told him how good ot felt to have him on top of things.

Word to the wise. Ladies, don't stand in the way of your own progress. Don't be controlling. They may not do it your way but they can get it done and sometimes they are better than you at it. You can't have it both ways.

Live and learn.