Just a Couple of Quick Responses

To the young lady who responded to my weight blog noting the grief she gets for being too skinny. Unfortunately it is human nature to categorize and criticize. It us and them. Right and wrong. Different gives people fits. Get next to that and over the fools. You can't take other people's ignorance personally. I had a very important positive experience early in life. (they weren't any fun them but I cherish them now) My sister and I were the only two blacks in an all white school in 1964. Got called the n-word. They woudn't let my sister and I swim in the local pool. My father's response: "Did anybody hurt you?" Our answer "no." Then he'd say "How are you grades?"

I bet none of those people who called me names or kept me out of that pool have their own television show. His message, you do everything you can to get better and be successful. Yes, you will run into some fools along the way. Some of them might even be able to set up road blocks. But don't let that define who you are just let it tell you how hard you have to fight.

And to the young lady who asked me about what I meant in my book My Mother's Rules when I said my mother told me I only saw half of what was going on and did I believe now that I am a mother that that is how it is with moms and kids. First yes, you got that right mom did tell me we didn't see the worst of my father's illness. And yes I agree that my kids can't see the whole picture of what we do. But I will say this my mother's situation was vastly different from my own. She had to hide some stuff that daddy did to her and in general because he was bi-polar and it was just too deep for kids to deal with. I haven't got anything I need to hide like that. Sure they don't understand the whole scope of money and sacrifice, but it's far different from what my mother did. She hid horror stories. Ones that I don't have. Great question. Very thoughtful.

I appreciate those of you who wrote and said you understood my "Lost My Compsure" blog.

Some of you wrote me to say that you liked my idea of doing a PIP (Personal Improvement Plan) that I wrote about in my Comfort of Other's Blog. If any of you do start one I'd love to hear about it.

And last, but by no means least to all of you who said 'happy birthday' . . . Thank You!