I’m Confused

Okay people, I'm confused.

Recently I have been doing this thing on the show called Before the Vows where I help couples work through issues before they get married. In doing this I give them a test and in that test I ask the question:

Do you think one of you should be head of the house/ If so, Who?

I also asked about chores and household work.

Do you know that almost without exception people who responded said men should be the head of the house and that woman should do all of the house work. Even when they say a woman should work outside of the home they have the very same expectation of a woman at home that they did when "stay at home mom" was the norm. Not only that, guys are tellimg me that they would have a problem if their wife made more than they do. They seem to attribute control with money and they want the control.

Where is this equality we fought for in the 60's and 70's? If I make more money than my husband can't I at least be co captain? Did we get screwed when we went to work? Did we just add to our work load without getting anything on the other end? What's up with the male ego thing? Haven't we made any progress there? Are men that threatened by powerful women?

What's up with that? Let me know.