Sixteen year old opinion

I received a responce to my last blog that disagreed with my basic premise which was that I should try to talk a young lady out of being with a guy that was not good for her.

She first said she hoped that her difference of opinion didn't offend me. IT DIDN'T. I like it when people challenge ideas. It makes me think and learn. It is interesting and has purpose. I respect others opinions even if they differ from my own and I congradulate her on her expression of ideas.

That having been said I must say that I stand firm in my beliefs on this one. Since she left her thoughts in my message box and not on my blog I'll rephrase it quickly here. Basically her thesis was I didn't have the right to tell someone what to do and that a young lady needs to have experience and learn and I should not interfere with that process.

My thought is not only do I have a right to try to direct the young I have an OBLGATION to do so. There is a reason we have age limits on the ability to do things. You learn as you get older. And while I understand her point that a young lady will learn from being in a relationship even if its not good for her I ask At what cost does this lesson come and who has to pay for it? It isn't just her (though she will pay a heavy heavy cost) but the children she makes and the society they are in pays the cost as well.

We can't just keep making the same mistakes over and over again and expect anything to improve. Yes a ten year old will learn that fire burns if he puts his hands on a stove, but isn't it better to learn that lesson from being told than being burned? That scar will last a lifetime.

I remember a guy called me once for a date when I was sixteen. When mom gave me the phone she said "Don't even bother, this guys not about anything" She and I were extraordinarily close and I trusted her implicitly (I was a weird and unusual child) He actually got an attitude on the phone when I told him I couldn't go out. What does that tell you? A word to the wise saves a lot of hurt.

And this is not just a woman thing. Guys there are no count women out there too who can be very tempting but aren't worth the heart ache. If everybody is waving you off, take a look at what you are doing. There is probably a reason.

I'm planting my feet on this one. Triflin is as triflin does and at my age you can see it a mile away.

No joke. No smoke.