The Heart and Its Reasons

Hello everyone. I just did a show on NPR and the host Farai asked me a question that I certainly did not know how to answer. We were all talking about Jennifer Hudson's situation.

And first, let me say this, no one knows who did what yet - we know the boy friend is a person of interest but you can't put him on trial in the court of public opinion I am big on that. I think we do that waaaaaay too often.

But her situation led to a conversation about mothers not liking boyfriends and lovers and what do you say to a person who is in love and you don't think its a good person to be in love with.

I said once 'the rush' (and you all know what I'm talking about) begins its too late. You have to warn people ahead of time about what things feel like and what people say so they can see it coming. Talk to kidsjust when they get that age and don't tell them what not to do but tell them about how it feels where you've been and what it can be like and don't lose your mind.

I tell my boys all the time that that first hit of sex makes you a little crazy. They think I'm crazy and they don't want to hear it but I tell them it ain't no joke and I'm not playing and you heard it here first.

"The heart has its reasons that reason knows nothing of" - Pascal