My bad.
Am I impatient or what?
I'll give it a couple of days and we'll pick something.
Friday, January 9, 2009
Not My Hubby
I have gotten a couple of comments about the picture I have on here where I am in a purple dress and am with a man. I've been told we are a cute couple.
Just for the sake of clarity that guy is Tony Perkins, a TV news anchor - not my husband. If you want to see E aka (Big Man) look on my web site judgelynn.com.
By the way, I see you are not feeling the book thing so I'll move on.
Just for the sake of clarity that guy is Tony Perkins, a TV news anchor - not my husband. If you want to see E aka (Big Man) look on my web site judgelynn.com.
By the way, I see you are not feeling the book thing so I'll move on.
iRead
I started a thing called iRead on my page or maybe there already was one and I joined. (Isn't that sad I don't even understand what's on my own page - to be truthful, I didn't do it my tech guy did) and I am not even sure how to work it. (He's coming over today to explain it to me). He started it because I am always talking about reading - I buy books like a crack addict buys rocks.
Of course, I started out with my own book. But I am a fan of reading and I want to really use the iRead thing so we can have discussions about books. So while I am learning how to work this thing I am putting a general call out. Any recommendations on good books? How about book types? What kind of things do you enjoy reading?
And if you don't read what do you think would get you interested? Don't back off cause its not your thing. MySpace wasn't mine but I tried it and liked it.
I read a lot of history and non fiction but I do read some novels. So give me some suggestions. My husband says the stuff I read is too academic. (and I'll admit I like things thick and fact filled). But I'm willing to expand my horizons.
We could start with mine (it's an easy read and cheap - only $3.00 on Amazon last I looked - but we don't have to) If there is something good anyone of you would like to recommend let's work with it. I'd really like to have an interactive talk. (again I'll have to learn how) but let's stretch out here.
Of course, I started out with my own book. But I am a fan of reading and I want to really use the iRead thing so we can have discussions about books. So while I am learning how to work this thing I am putting a general call out. Any recommendations on good books? How about book types? What kind of things do you enjoy reading?
And if you don't read what do you think would get you interested? Don't back off cause its not your thing. MySpace wasn't mine but I tried it and liked it.
I read a lot of history and non fiction but I do read some novels. So give me some suggestions. My husband says the stuff I read is too academic. (and I'll admit I like things thick and fact filled). But I'm willing to expand my horizons.
We could start with mine (it's an easy read and cheap - only $3.00 on Amazon last I looked - but we don't have to) If there is something good anyone of you would like to recommend let's work with it. I'd really like to have an interactive talk. (again I'll have to learn how) but let's stretch out here.
Thursday, January 8, 2009
Clearing up a Few Things
I must say, some of you are really paying close attention. I recieved a message the other day from a woman who is reading my book My Mother's Rules and had a question about what was in it. In my book I talk about my father who was a lawyer, but Ruthie (hello) says she remembers me saying that my father worked in a linoleum factory and that he had a problem that made it difficult for him to walk or talk (I can't remember which she said)
The first two things are both true. My father was a lawyer but when he first got out of law school in 1947 he could not get a job practicing law. White firms just wouldn't hire black lawyers so he had to start his own practice. Until it got off the ground though, he worked in a linoleum factory because he needed money to live. I told that story in court because I was talking to a man who said he didn't have a job because of a 'series of unfortunate circumstances' all of which, in HIS case turned out to be excuses.
My father was a black man born in 1919 he was 5'2" tall born in the hills of West Virgina. He worked his way through college digging coal in coal mines. He is what I look to when I think things are tough.
And as for the disability thing the only one dad had was psychosis. And trust me, that was enough!!!!!
The first two things are both true. My father was a lawyer but when he first got out of law school in 1947 he could not get a job practicing law. White firms just wouldn't hire black lawyers so he had to start his own practice. Until it got off the ground though, he worked in a linoleum factory because he needed money to live. I told that story in court because I was talking to a man who said he didn't have a job because of a 'series of unfortunate circumstances' all of which, in HIS case turned out to be excuses.
My father was a black man born in 1919 he was 5'2" tall born in the hills of West Virgina. He worked his way through college digging coal in coal mines. He is what I look to when I think things are tough.
And as for the disability thing the only one dad had was psychosis. And trust me, that was enough!!!!!
Monday, January 5, 2009
One sided?
Hello everybody,
I am going to address an issue now that has caused me some concern of late. In emails at the show I have gotten a couple of comments in which I have been accused of gender bias. Some say that I am too tough on the guys especially the black ones. So I have been watching my show lately with that in mind and guess what: I do see how one could get that impression. It does look that way.
The thing is I try very hard to be balanced. VERY HARD. That having been said I am going to work harder to improve that. In my own defense however I would like to point out the following things that may add to an impression of bias.
1. We can only air the couples we get. The vast majority that we find are women who want to come on the show who have been wronged. Men who have been made fools of cheated on or are hen pecked to death are less likely to be comfortable telling the world about it. Women - we don't mind so much. So I get more of "this guys done me wrong" cases than the other way around.
2. Each show takes 40 - 45 minutes to tape but we only air 18-20minutes. They edit the show so we can get the story told and the most exciting parts on. Sometimes a lot of what I say gets edited out. (I have been able to talk to those who editt and they are aware of my balance issues and are keeping that in mind)
3. It might seem that I am always yelling at black guys biut we get a lot more black couples than white who call in. (A cultural thing?) I don't know. That's just how it is.
4. A couple people say I always start with the woman. That goes back to the story telling thing. Our only rule that determines who we start with is who is the best talker. Who is going to get the story out quickly but thoroughly. We women talk a lot. We talk about our relationships all the time. We already have it in story form so more often than not we start with her because she can 'set up the show' better.
Having said all of that I am still going to watch my p's and q's on this issue. One can never be TOO balanced.
I am going to address an issue now that has caused me some concern of late. In emails at the show I have gotten a couple of comments in which I have been accused of gender bias. Some say that I am too tough on the guys especially the black ones. So I have been watching my show lately with that in mind and guess what: I do see how one could get that impression. It does look that way.
The thing is I try very hard to be balanced. VERY HARD. That having been said I am going to work harder to improve that. In my own defense however I would like to point out the following things that may add to an impression of bias.
1. We can only air the couples we get. The vast majority that we find are women who want to come on the show who have been wronged. Men who have been made fools of cheated on or are hen pecked to death are less likely to be comfortable telling the world about it. Women - we don't mind so much. So I get more of "this guys done me wrong" cases than the other way around.
2. Each show takes 40 - 45 minutes to tape but we only air 18-20minutes. They edit the show so we can get the story told and the most exciting parts on. Sometimes a lot of what I say gets edited out. (I have been able to talk to those who editt and they are aware of my balance issues and are keeping that in mind)
3. It might seem that I am always yelling at black guys biut we get a lot more black couples than white who call in. (A cultural thing?) I don't know. That's just how it is.
4. A couple people say I always start with the woman. That goes back to the story telling thing. Our only rule that determines who we start with is who is the best talker. Who is going to get the story out quickly but thoroughly. We women talk a lot. We talk about our relationships all the time. We already have it in story form so more often than not we start with her because she can 'set up the show' better.
Having said all of that I am still going to watch my p's and q's on this issue. One can never be TOO balanced.
Saturday, January 3, 2009
Two Things
First thing: Off the Wall
I've changed my mind (sort of). If you read my New Years blog you know I said I don't make New Years Resolutions because I resolve all of the time. And that's true. I am always on a PIP (Personal Imrpovement Project).
If you paid attention you probably noted a little saddness in my post. I was feeling a little blue that day. Part of my battle. Took a couple of days but I cycled out.
Anyway, I took a moment while I was 'in the weeds' to think about a few things and decided I will make a New years Resolution this year for no other reason than it couldn't hurt and I haven't done it before. New is good if it is a reach for better. (and yes, I know I said trying to be better was a part of my problem) but I had a case of the sads and i was thinking about it all wrong.
My New Year's Resoultion is to Get Off the Wall. My husband and I were talking about it. I'm like a soldier on the wall - guard duty. I live my life pressing watching worrying. My getting better resolution is to Get Off the Wall. I am not quite sure how I am going to do it but knowing I'm up on it is the first step.
Second Thing: Switching
I received a very interesting message from one of you who said that she liked my show because I didn't 'switch' It was an interesting and thoughful comment that's why I am bringing it up. (I love these kind of commentaries by the way - ones that make me think and are analytic in some way - Thank You) This woman said she was white and that she thought I kept it real on my show because I didn't switch from being black to white when I talked to different people. That I didn't change my speech patterns or language when I am talking to black or white people.
I don't know if I do or don't on my show. But I thought that was a great comment. I do 'switch' though. But I don't consider it so much a 'black/white' thing but a 'am I making myself clear' thing. I speak in whatever manner I believe will make myself understood and part of that means I evaluate my audience and speak in a manner that will touch them. On the show I am at home (that's how I feel anyway) and that's how I speak. But if I'm talking to someone who only watched CNN and would never watch a judge show and who only reads the Wall Street Journal I speak differently. I want to be persuasive. To do so I must speak the right language.
I know a lot of people have their 'in the house' dialect (for lack of a better word) and their 'at work' dialect. I know that sometimes black folk speak differently among themselves than when they speak in a mixed environment. I think I do depending on the circumstances.
So what do you guys think. Do you do it? Is that bad thing?
I've changed my mind (sort of). If you read my New Years blog you know I said I don't make New Years Resolutions because I resolve all of the time. And that's true. I am always on a PIP (Personal Imrpovement Project).
If you paid attention you probably noted a little saddness in my post. I was feeling a little blue that day. Part of my battle. Took a couple of days but I cycled out.
Anyway, I took a moment while I was 'in the weeds' to think about a few things and decided I will make a New years Resolution this year for no other reason than it couldn't hurt and I haven't done it before. New is good if it is a reach for better. (and yes, I know I said trying to be better was a part of my problem) but I had a case of the sads and i was thinking about it all wrong.
My New Year's Resoultion is to Get Off the Wall. My husband and I were talking about it. I'm like a soldier on the wall - guard duty. I live my life pressing watching worrying. My getting better resolution is to Get Off the Wall. I am not quite sure how I am going to do it but knowing I'm up on it is the first step.
Second Thing: Switching
I received a very interesting message from one of you who said that she liked my show because I didn't 'switch' It was an interesting and thoughful comment that's why I am bringing it up. (I love these kind of commentaries by the way - ones that make me think and are analytic in some way - Thank You) This woman said she was white and that she thought I kept it real on my show because I didn't switch from being black to white when I talked to different people. That I didn't change my speech patterns or language when I am talking to black or white people.
I don't know if I do or don't on my show. But I thought that was a great comment. I do 'switch' though. But I don't consider it so much a 'black/white' thing but a 'am I making myself clear' thing. I speak in whatever manner I believe will make myself understood and part of that means I evaluate my audience and speak in a manner that will touch them. On the show I am at home (that's how I feel anyway) and that's how I speak. But if I'm talking to someone who only watched CNN and would never watch a judge show and who only reads the Wall Street Journal I speak differently. I want to be persuasive. To do so I must speak the right language.
I know a lot of people have their 'in the house' dialect (for lack of a better word) and their 'at work' dialect. I know that sometimes black folk speak differently among themselves than when they speak in a mixed environment. I think I do depending on the circumstances.
So what do you guys think. Do you do it? Is that bad thing?
Thursday, January 1, 2009
Happy New Year
Happy New Year to all of you.
I never make New Year's resolutions cause I spend my whole life resolving. I feel a lot of pressure all of the time for no particular reason whatsoever. To Be Better. . . To Be Better. . .
Sometimes I think the one thing I really need to do To Be Better is to stop trying To Be Better all of the time.
New year. Are you excited about it? If so tell me why. Did you make resolutions? If so tell me what.
Tyring to feel appropriately energized today.
I never make New Year's resolutions cause I spend my whole life resolving. I feel a lot of pressure all of the time for no particular reason whatsoever. To Be Better. . . To Be Better. . .
Sometimes I think the one thing I really need to do To Be Better is to stop trying To Be Better all of the time.
New year. Are you excited about it? If so tell me why. Did you make resolutions? If so tell me what.
Tyring to feel appropriately energized today.
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